There is a concept of 1% improvements which over time adds up to big progress. Forget about comparing the level of your iman to that of others.
Forget about expectations of the Muslim community, your family or your own.
Focus on progress... small steps... think short-term. Have a long-term vision for yourself, but don't think about the journey at all.
You will get there one day at a time, one small step at a time. In the 'My iman goal' section of The Dua Journal make your goal ATTAINABLE. Just 1% improvement. 1%. Then keep working on that 1% improvement until you have it down. Until it becomes your second nature. Keep writing that same 1% improvement goal in this section. Once you feel comfortable, move on to your next 1% improvement. Small steps, but keep moving.